Friendship Health Check
Twelve signals of whether a friendship is doing a child good — including the two that matter most, disagreement and secrets kept from parents.
A healthy friendship shows in twelve ordinary behaviours, and the two that matter most are whether a child can disagree with a friend without it ending, and whether they are asked to keep secrets from parents.
Friendship Health Check
Frequently asked
Is the Friendship Health Check free?
Yes. Every tool on AlphaBetaMinds is free, needs no account and has no usage limit.
Does this tool store what I type?
No. It runs entirely in your browser. Your inputs are never sent to our server, and nothing is logged.
How accurate is it?
It uses the McCrindle generation boundaries (Gen Alpha 2010–2024, Gen Beta 2025–2039) and UN World Population Prospects vital rates. Sources and formulas are on our methodology page.
Can I use the result in an article or report?
Yes, with a credit and a link back to this page. See our terms of use for the full licence.
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