Transition Difficulty Tracker
Rate every transition in an ordinary day and see which ones are actually hard — often the whole picture, and rarely the ones adults expect.
Rating all twelve transitions in a day rather than only the ones that cause conflict usually relocates the problem: difficulty concentrated in the evening is far more often about the school day it followed.
Transition Difficulty Tracker
Frequently asked
Why do transitions cause difficulty?
Ending something and starting something else asks for several things at once — stopping an activity, shifting attention, holding a plan, and often a physical change of place. Any of those can be the hard part, and which one it is differs between children and between times of day.
What helps with transitions?
The consistently useful things are advance notice with a concrete marker, keeping the order of the day predictable, and reducing the number of transitions where possible rather than improving each one. Countdown warnings help some children and increase anticipation for others, which is worth testing rather than assuming.
Does a high total mean something?
No. It is a count of your own ratings, not a measure of a child, and comparing it with another child's means nothing. The only use of the number is to compare morning, school and evening against each other.
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